Is your partner emotionally immature?

Have you ever been called overly dramatic, too much or too sensitive?

If you find yourself constantly hiding your feelings and never bringing up the things that bother you in the relationship, then over time, you'll continue to suppress precisely how you feel, which isn't fair on you and most certainly isn't healthy for the connection. 

Your feelings, emotions, needs, and wants should always be considered. Conflict within a relationship should always be handled with respect, listening, compromise, and a willingness to learn from one's mistakes. 

What is emotional immaturity?

An emotionally immature person has no desire to empathise with your emotions and see things from another point of view. Taking accountability for their actions doesn’t come easy to them, and this could be because of several factors like ego, shame or insecurities.

So what do we do if we find ourselves with an emotionally immature person?

Continue to share your emotions with this person and watch how they respond. If you are constantly being made to feel like you are the problem, bring it to their attention. Make sure to use words like "I feel" so that they clearly understand how YOU feel rather than it feeling like an attack on them. 

Create healthy boundaries and stick to them. We can empathise with this person and the traumas that have caused them to act this way. However, they must accept accountability. They must be willing to change if they want to keep you in their life. 

If the person is willing, then seek help. A therapist is an excellent place to start in helping bring awareness to the problem and actively seeking change. 

And finally, always show up as your authentic self and don't stop asking for what you need to feel safe, loved and seen.