Sex, water and funky smells
This year I signed my partner and me up on a platform specialising in sex parties and events online and in person. I had heard many great things about this company and their parties and even seen A-list celebrities attending, so I was fully prepared to invest in the ticket prices and monthly membership for the creme de la creme of sex parties.
My kink is water, so when I saw an opportunity to go to a sex party in a spa appear on the party list, I jumped straight on it. I couldn't wait to participate in some sexy, slippery fun that would get all my senses tingling.
We had two months to wait until the party, so we did some research and engaged in investigative chat on the community link-up page. We wanted to gauge what to expect, what to wear and who might attend. Regular members on the platform reassured us that we would have a great time, that we had signed up for the most intense party, and that we had thrown ourselves into the deep end. No pun intended.
A few weeks before the party, you are put into a group chat with everyone attending, which is a unique and reassuring experience. Everyone was incredibly friendly, respectful and complimentary of one another, which only led to a lot of teasing and naughty photos. Everyone was of a similar age, and many were experiencing their first spa party. We engaged in many chats outside of the group with people we liked the vibe of and even involved in some small talk about what we wanted out of the party.
We were excited to make new friends and explore our desires in an environment with like-minded people.
So the night of the party finally arrives, and I have nothing but excitement and curiosity running through my body. I only felt nervous about whether I packed a sexy enough bikini. On the other hand, my partner was incredibly nervous and, unfortunately, had a nasty reaction to a back wax two nights before the event, which didn't help. We spent every hour on the hour covering him in creams to calm his skin down.
We turned up relatively early out of excitement and also because we needed to get a few drinks in before people started to pack the place out.
Everyone arrived in style, and some went straight into full nudity and gorgeous lingerie (FYI, do not wear your expensive clothing to these events). One thing I didn't expect to see was a fully naked couple having just engaged in an argument which they continued inside. Nevertheless, watching people be mad at each other fully nude at a sex party was amusing and something you don't see often.
Unfortunately, the venue could have been better and was different from what I expected. Although it was immaculate, it was more like a 2-star hotel spa at the bottom of a basement than the luxury I had expected from the price we paid. I thought sex/life meets Hefner pool grotto. Nevertheless, we were fully prepared to make the most of the experience.
When you arrived, you had to awkwardly walk into a small space where the lockers were located to put your stuff and change if and when desired. At this point, most people were already changing, and you saw everyone's naked bodies, which felt like accidentally seeing your birthday present before you unwrapped it. For me, it ruined the sexiness of everything as the changing rooms were in view of the rest of the venue and people were bumping bums and asking you to tie up their bikinis. Leaning over people to get to a locker and dropping your knickers on their feet doesn't exactly set the mood. Not for me anyway.
The rest of the area consisted of white sofas, a bar, one room with a massage table, a giant jacuzzi (known as the jizzcuzzi), one sauna and several rooms with cushions and porn playing on tiny TVs. Everyone was always on show, and no doors or curtains were present, so total voyeurism was encouraged. Also, it's important to note that several people were employed walking around, making sure everyone was safe, and you could approach them at any point if you felt you needed help.
We decided the best action plan was to experience the Jizzcuzzi before it did live up to its name. We stayed away from having sex in the water due to my worries about hygiene and the chemicals affecting my vaginal pH, but it was enjoyable to watch others having fun. At one point, I felt the hand of the girl next to me on my leg under the water as an encouragement to join, but the night was young, and I was still finding my feet, so I politely declined.
We then progressed onto the tiny sauna, which was more of a lukewarm room, I guess to avoid anyone passing out from rampant sex in the heat. Here we were joined by four other couples who were individually engaging in some very steamy oral play to which we followed suit. This had to be the sexiest and most erotic part of the night. There were many beautiful moans and slow movements as we watched each other get off. After about five minutes of heaven, a single woman entered and asked if she could join another couple, to which they said yes. All eyes were then locked on this threesome. Her mouth wrapped around his penis while she was being pleasured from behind by their new friend was nothing short of arousing.
After the steamy sauna experience, we decided to engage in some voyeurism which wasn't too hard as everywhere you looked, people were fucking. Other than being slightly disappointed by the venue, I also was a little annoyed about the number of people. It became overcrowded and left very little space for people to engage comfortably in sex. A line for the jacuzzi was starting to form, making those inside it feel like they had to rush. I mean, on the one hand, it's the first time I've ever seen people queuing to have sex in a pool of water.
After some watching, we decided to engage in one last sexual experience with another woman who wanted to join us. So we headed to one room with a single cushion and a small TV playing porn. As we all started to have some fun and play with each other, people began to gather outside the room to watch us. I've never had anyone watch me have sex before, but it was very sexy and encouraging. Nothing about it felt awkward or embarrassing (not that I get embarrassed myself), but everyone was very respectful of each other and their space.
One thing I did find interesting upon reflection was that the whole experience was quite performative. As much as I tried to find pleasure during the intimacy, my partner and I agreed it was more about how sexy you can make sex look rather than enjoying the sex itself because you know people are watching. Maybe it was because we were newbies, or perhaps I was too in my head, but it was not something I felt gave me fanny flutters.
The night came to a halt around 1 pm after we both agreed, the space became overcrowded, and a strong smell of fish lingered in the air. While it was pretty amusing, it wasn't sexy or inviting anymore, so we made a swift exit for the door. Let's just say that in a small space of over 100 bodies, sex, water, and alcohol do not make for a pleasant smell after several hours.
Overall, sharing this experience with my partner was incredibly fun and something we will never forget. It was a rollercoaster of nerves, giggles and new experiences that brought us closer. When we returned to our hotel, we had a fun night engaging in conversation and debriefing about what had just happened. We will go to more parties in the future but might avoid the pool parties.
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